WWBBD: Check Please!

Well, hey there sugar! BB here. It’s your favorite new day of the week, Friday! Not just because you get to get off work or school, but because you get to get a little slice of advice from your girl, BB, of course.

Now, honey, on to our topic of the week. Today we’re talking about that pesky lil’ thing known as paying for meals. You know, that experience you dread when you’re out with a new guy. What way does he swing, and I’m not taking about orientation.

I’m all for chivalry and a man being a gentleman, but I’m also an independent woman. Just because I’m black and made of plastic doesn’t mean I can’t go Dutch. Now, it’s one thing if you went for a shopping spree at the dollar store together, but there ain’t no way I’m making my man pay for my steak dinner. You don’t make your man pay every time. I’m no gold digger, honey. I like knowing I can take care of myself.

“But what if he won’t let me pay?”

I hear ya, honey. Some men feel threatened when you won’t let them take care of you. (A lil’ BB exclusive, don’t let anyone know it was me that said this, but these are the ones that have self-confidence issues.) It’s part of their “manly duty”. I don’t think so, sugar! It’s no one’s duty to treat me like a child. What you do in a case like this is hold your ground. Show your man how strong and dynamite you can be. If he tries to pay, steal the check, or insist on putting down your share. Make sure to make it flirty and cute though, so you’ll win your man into submitting.

Remember, you’re a bold and beautiful independent woman. You can always compromise. Having a will of your own isn’t a crime, but being straight up bossy won’t win you any fellas. If your man really wants to feel like he’s some superhero that can take care of you, offer to let him pay for part of the meal, like dessert.

And don’t forget to give him a little special thank you! You can decide for yourself what that means.

Admin Tales: Promoting

Just a little something from the face behind GOY without actually showing my face. Of course…. I could find a picture of what I wish I looked like for you, and you could just play along with me. But I mean… That’s crazy. I’ve got way more important and productive things to do.

Today I’ve been working on promoting GOY, and I’m choosing to blog about the experience partway through, so at least there’s something for new readers to look at, even if it has nothing to do really with the point…theme…whatever of this blog.

I started by going to two blogs I frequent with rather formidable readerships of their own, and commenting on both once or twice, before moving on to their respective blogrolls. I checked out a couple sites off of these and commented, then moved on to BlogHer.

I’m not totally sure I belong on BlogHer. Yes, I have a blog of my own, but I’ve been using my account on there more for the sake of this blog, which isn’t exactly mine. I’m just the messenger for the stories that people submit. Still, I’m on BlogHer. I added a post to my account, and then moved on to commenting on some of the popular posts on there. I mean, with all the people commenting on these posts, they’ve got to check out what other people have to say. Maybe someone will like what I had to say and follow me here.

I have to say, I feel strange about promoting this blog, since, like I said, it’s not totally mine. However, it needs more attention than my personal blog. I’m okay with sacrificing the views. I mean… The whole point of Getting Over You is having readers who are willing to come back and comment. That’s how it works. I just feel a little… I don’t know, deceitful, trying to interest people with what I have to say and then luring them to this blog which is other peoples’ words.

But enough of my whining. I’ve got more self-promoting to do.

To all you bloggers out there, how do you try and attract new readers? What do you find to be most helpful?

Tags: Admin Tales

Ask Out #1

Sometimes the “other woman” does get the guy. Of course, I’m using the term other woman lightly. Don’t think I’m some homewrecker before you start reading this.

Anyways, there was me and there was the guy. And we were friends. We were both in relationships, but neither one was that great. My boyfriend didn’t seem to get the idea that I wanted to spend time together, and was more focused on everything but me. His girlfriend lived halfway across the country. I kept thinking that I would be happier with him than in my current relationship, but I wanted to give things a chance. Besides, he wasn’t single.

But then my relationship ended, and he was one of the people I talked with after it happened. His relationship was practically over, and I thought he had feelings for me. Still, I didn’t want to screw up what we had by making a move that wasn’t reciprocated.

Our best friends are dating though, and through them I found out that he did like me back. I had already suggested the four of us go out one night, and now I knew that by the end of the night I had to say something. Whatever relationship he had had with the other girl was finally over.

At the end of the night I asked him to help me find my car in the parking garage so I could get him alone with me. We talked but of course I was too nervous to say what I really wanted to. He said goodnight and walked away while I sat in my car internally yelling at myself. When I started to leave, I drove past our best friends and him. My best friend was signaling me over so I pulled into a parking spot. She then ran away with her boyfriend, leaving the two of us alone.

He walked over to my car, and I knew what he wanted to say, and what I wanted to say, but we couldn’t get the actual words out. So I suggested using the pad of Post-Its I had in my trunk.

I’m going to keep that Post-It.

I couldn’t stop smiling driving home.

Tags: Ask Out

Text #1

Me: I’m like ***’s unicorn diary.
Best Friend: What?
Me: I KNOW EVERYTHING!!!

And I’m sparkly.

Tags: Conversations

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